Troubles Dont Last Always If
Dr. Gloria "Jo" Floyd (Ph.D., RN)
The Nurses Coach
Are you troubled in many aspects of your nursing life? Do you feel worse and worse
every or most days? Have you often or recently thought, If there is trouble anywhere
it will fine me first? Have you at times been at your wits end? Do you feel that
your personal and/or professional life is in shambles? Are you convinced that you are
doomed to your current circumstance? If so, listen up
it doesnt have to be so.
Just trust me and know that troubles dont last always if
you get focused my
friend in the right direction. And know this is not going to be Preaching 101, but rather,
key steps to move trouble from your life.
Heres The Scoop
If you are doing anything in your life my nursing buddy that is worthwhile every now and
then some rain will fall. Life just is not going to always be a bowl of cherries or better
a bowl of strawberries ready to dip in chocolate.
Ask around and you will find that you are not the only nurse who feels that Satan or
somebody or something worse is sitting on top of your house, standing on your desk or
running down the hallway after you, where ever you nurse, shop or eat. It is just not so.
How do I know? Cause he is over my house, office, car, etc
.thats a joke folks.
So what I am trying to say is life is not always going to be sweet. At work you may find
that things are not going right. The boss, who could be you, is running into brick walls,
acting out of it and clearly off center. Supplies didnt arrive, the equipment
doesnt work, some apathetic nurse didnt show up for work, the check from your
employer/client bounced, your clients are cranky, you are cranky
you get the picture.
And what makes it worse is this is a usual day.
Well, dont get discouraged yet. It could be worse. Your checks could be bouncing,
your roof could have blown off, you could be in the situation where you cant pay
your bills, your health is shot and you just got fired. Your relationships could be
mother could disown you. And your friends could be not returning your calls. You could
have just been offered a head nurse position or told your organization was bankrupt and
about to close. Someone could have just robbed your house and stole your car. Census could
be down. You could be over weight, and your mother-in-law or most dreaded relative has
asked to move in!! No, all of this could not be your situation right now. So in other
words, things could get worse.
Seriously, things could get worse. However, I recognize that what you are feeling hurts,
pulls you down, fags you out and that to you
your troubles are no laughing matter,
whether they be at home or work. Therefore, here I am going to give you my formula for:
|Getting past the daily hurdles |
|Keeping your best face forward |
|Taking your lumps better |
|Staying focused in times of trouble |
|Planning for your worse days, and |
|Trampling troubles every time they come your way. |
Step One: Shake Out Your Blessings and Give Thanks
If you get up or arrive at work feeling what else could go wrong, just keep that
thought; shake out your blessings and give thanks. For what? for how bad it is not.
Trust me when things get bad, they can really get bad. So, every time you think this is
the worst of the worst, re-kindle your spirit by saying This is difficult but is
could be worse. And just stop and think about other ways this could have played out.
it simple, say you had one staff member not show up remember they all could have
walked out. You had a fender bender you could have been critically injured or died.
No matter how many times you are traumatized daily, shake out your blessing and give
thanks!! It works.
Step Two: Take Each Day One At A Time
Dont let me hear you say it. Dont start traumatizing over things that
havent happed yet, like I know she is probably not going to show up tomorrow
either. Ill probably have a worse wreck next time. My
spouse is probably going to
You get the picture. The
troubles you have today are enough for today. Dont let yourself get
carried away on a tide of Oh, woe is me! Instead, recognize that today is all
you are promised and make the most of it
then plan to assure tomorrow is better.
Step Three: Build Your Foundation On A Rock
If your life is full of personal and professional troubles all the time let me suggest
that you step back and look at your lifes foundation. Is your emotional, financial,
social, physical and mental foundation built on a rock or on an unsound, weak, unstable
hill of sand? How are you centering your spirit? Do you have a power source that is not
washed away with the first rainfall? What are your solid foundations? Where do you
renew your faith? Are your values, attitudes and beliefs grounded in your Almighty? Are
you traveling through your personal and professional life without a strong anchor? Are you
feeding your spirit? Or is your whole life hinged on sinking and easily washed away sand?
If so this has to change.
Get your spirit back. Find it in solitude, reflection, prayer, meditation, counseling, a
church, mosque or synagogue, a spirit-centered friend, write or call me, read a bible or
see a chaplain, priest, rabbi, or other spiritual leader. In other words, build your
souls foundation up and on a spiritual rock that can carry you through your troubled
Step Four: Put On Your Prescriptive Armor
Troubles become like ants in our lives if we put on our armor. So what armor would work
for you in your nursing life? Think about the things you need to enrich your total
lifes circumstance and then set out to assure that your armor stays intact. And let
me suggest some armor every one of us should be sure we have:
Prescriptive Armor #1 Wisdom
Think through the big things that can trouble your life. List some of them right now on a
blank sheet of paper. They might read something like this:
|Poor Health |
|A Difficult Supervisor ?Loss of a Loved One |
|Not Enough Money ?Managed Care |
|A Family Crisis ?Cost Containment |
|A Catastrophic Injury ?Etc. |
Stop and think about how wisdom can help you go through these and other calamities.
Wisdom can be a great armor. It can help you see the worse case scenario. It can
help you in your search for the resources you need. It can steer you in the right
direction. It can chart a course away from your troubles and toward your rock your
foundation your spiritual tower, and out of perceived darkness into promised light.
So what am I saying to you? I am only suggesting that before trouble befalls you or is at
your door, build an armor foundation. Cull out of your mind what your resources are. Ask
and answer in writing to deepen today your armor.
Prescriptive Armor #2 Resources
Who are my resources for assistance, encouragement, support, intimacy and love? Start with
those you have helped and guided. List them all now.
Prescriptive Armor #3 - Finances
What financial options can I count on to help me deal with or manage any financial crises
that may befall me? Planning ahead is a good beginning. Dont stop until you have
listed at least six sources you might be able to turn to.
Prescriptive Armor #4 Relationships
What steps should I be taking on a daily basis to assure stability in my relationships?
Try more sharing, giving, helping, nurturing, being loving, kind, available and related.
Prescriptive Armor #5 Investments
What investments do I make now personally and professionally to stem the tide of troubles
in my life? You might answer savings accounts, stocks, bonds, certificates of deposit,
budgeting, penny pinching, etc.
Prescriptive Armor #6 Credentials
What credentials should I work on now via education, continuing education, research,
writings, on the job training, and/or the world wide web to keep me on top of the heap
the most marketable, needed and desired professionally?
Prescriptive Armor #7 Mentorship
Do I need to seek out mentors in my personal and professional world? What could a mentor
help me do, prepare for, or grow in? And what troubles could I ward off by mentoring to
Prescriptive Armor #8 Ask, Seek and Knock A Lot
Ask yourself is there something I need that I have a source for if I just ask?
Where can I seek for a solution today for a particular trouble I have? Is
there a door upon which I could knock but have not? Dont, in other
words, have a solution to your troubles and not always stop and think where could I
ask, seek and/or knock? It works each and every time.
So go forth, seek out, and use your prescriptive armor daily. It is nearby for the
grasping and it will help you solve many of the troubles you run into. First seek wisdom.
Know your available resources. Plan financially. Build strong and solid
relationships. Invest wisely.
Stay maximally credentialed. Seek our great mentors and mentor back.
Step Five Remember That Troubles Dont Last If You
|First do not harm. Always, always be caught on the side of right. I really believe that
what goes around comes around. Dont want to ever experience a particular harm or
trouble? Let me suggest that you never do that level of harm. |
|Treat everyone right. I know sometimes we see people who treat others badly all the time
who appear to have everything going for them. I have even at times felt that way myself.
But dont believe it. In the end your and my my Almighty has the last
|Take Nothing For Granted. Know that life can throw you a loop and prepare for it.
Dont get caught with your guard down. If you are living or working in a difficult
situation stop right now and write out the possible troubles your current circumstance
could deal you and get prepared. Write next at least three tactics you can use if that
circumstance shows up to haunt you. |
|Find Some Problem Solving Buddies. Know some other folk who are in your or a better
situation? Hang tight with them. Be a sounding board for each other. Sit down in your
positive moments and strategize for any expected trouble. Dont get negative; stay
positive and work as a team to chare a more benevolent course. |
|Strive to Keep Peace Everyday 24/7/365. It is quite easy to fight unnecessary
battles. But remember, they take lots of energy. Be sure the troubles in your life
arent coming because you are not always in search of a dignified peace. Move away
from I have to win and he/she/they have to lose if that is a part of your
skit. Life is much too short to have ongoing and routine fights. Get Peace! It feels much|
better than the alternative. And dont let others in your life get outside of
.help them understand the benefits in it
Focus = Peace!
|Stop Talking and Start Giving. Why, because I have found the more I and other people
give the more we each receive! At work and at home stretch and expand to give more of you
to others. You will be shocked to find that when you help others meet their unique needs
or get past their troubles, the more the world watches out for you. You will notice that
people watch your blind side, warn you of upcoming curves, open doors for you and help you
maximally when troubled times do come. So give, care, share, assist,
encourage, mentor and prop up others and the same will come your way multifold.
|Provoke No One To Wrath. An untroubled house is usually found with those who trouble not
or least. Do you know any folks in your world that seem to always be in an upheaval or
fighting with someone? Do you hate to see them coming because you know you are going to
hear something negative, naughty or unkind? Have you|
often worried about that person becoming a victim in a fight, drive by shooting or
participant in a road or work rage incident? I have and it is a worrisome situation.
Lets you and I not go there. People today have lots of stress so our goal is not to
|Live Up To Your Promises. Nothing brings trouble faster than promises not kept. Before
we volunteer, we need to know that we can deliver. Thus, let us think twice before we jump
on the help bandwagon. Arent we busy enough? Shouldnt we plan ahead for what
promises we will make? When you jot down your goals later or today for the next year,
decide on your work and giving priorities. Do look at what you enjoy doing. Forecast now
how much giving time you really have. Where do you want to spend it? People you like to be
with? Or wherever you volunteer without thinking? You get the picture. |
|Look For The Lessons In Your Troubles. I often hear people who have had life threatening
or catastrophic illness note that the illness was the best thing that ever happened to
them. Have you heard such statements as well? What most of these individuals are trying to
impart to us is that sometimes our greatest eye openers come from adversity. So when
troubles come your way, step back from them and see what the Great One is
trying to impart to you. What lesson is in your most recent adversity? Did you need the
last calamity to get you on the right track? I am letting any trouble that comes my way
grow me up for the next great challenge. |
|Pray, Meditate and Think Positive Thoughts. Now you can call me Miss Pray, Meditate and
Positive Thoughts! There are worse things, you know, that one could be called. I have
found that the more troubles, traumatized, downtrodden, or down in the dumps I get I go
all out to pray, meditate and to have positive thoughts. I put on the whole armor or my
belief and get down to the basics. How about you? Let me suggest that if you get overly
troubled at work and at home that you fight it with all your energy. Pray, meditate and
think positive thoughts. Some great thoughts are: |
|I can do this |
|I will survive this |
|I am healed |
|I believe I will succeed |
|I know that this, too, shall soon pass |
|I can survive it because it cant kill me |
|God is on my side |
|The worst that can happen is
and I can survive that! |
|This is just helping me to be stronger |
And dont think I havent had big troubles, I have. I have had
big hurts. I have experienced major financial hurdles. I have
lost my dad, a great friend and other things. I have experienced
huge disappointments. I have had a cancer diagnosis. I have been
the victim of imperfect surgeries and all the calamities that go
them. I have been perhaps like you, deeply, deeply troubled but through it all even as I
write today, I thank God for my blessings. It is not always easy. Many dont have a
strong faith, believe in God or have bounce-back potential. If you are one of them, hang
on. Learn to pray meditate and think positive thoughts. And work on forgiveness,
tolerance, patience and maximal love.
In Summary Love, Love and Love Some More would be my summary point for you. If your
work environment and/or home environment has deeply hurt, troubled and/or traumatized you,
fall back on your great innate capacity to love, love and love some more. It may be hard
because what happened to you could have been catastrophic. It could have hurt you to your
core. It could have hurt your reputation, caused you financial ruin, thwarted your trust,
made you a laughing stock, caused you to be fired, treated you unfairly, changed your
future, damaged your soul and/or pained you endlessly but
but you must allow healing
through love to get past it. I know from which I speak because I have felt that much hurt.
I have faced many troubles. I have felt the depths of despair
but I know that you and
I can get past our deepest troubles. We can return to our unique mountaintop if we can
just hold to rise up and understand
that Troubles Dont Last Always
If We Just
Just Meet Them Head On
and take them Step by Step with our eyes
focused on our sources of strength. And so until the next time keep on keeping on
and much trouble solving to you and you and me, too!!
Dr. Gloria "Jo" Floyd, Ph.D., RN, The Nurses Coach is a nationally recognized
speaker, consultant, author and survival strategist working throughout the united states
who resides in San Antonio. You may contact her by email at DrGloriaJoFloyd@ncehs.com.
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